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Best of the Gottman Blog

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### The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.

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8 ways to listen non-defensively and improve communication.

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“We must learn what actually lies in our sphere of control — and learn to live strictly within that sphere”

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Your go-to self-help tool for all relationship needs; conflict, intimacy, and connection. Built on the trusted Gottman Method, it’s perfect for couples and singles seeking meaningful change. Start transforming your relationship today.

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The Gottman Institute has helped countless individuals, couples, and families improve their relationships.

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